I can't actually advocate against a little face scratching in a relationship. It's sort of where mine started out too.
[His mouth turns up at that.]
I learned different lessons than you about all the ways I didn't matter; I know I don't quite understand. But I do know that it's possible to stop giving a fuck about the lessons and the boxes. Difficult; lots of conflict; but it's doable.
You can handle difficult. You can handle conflict.
Teach them not to hate themselves. Teach them that they never had it coming. Because you never had it coming. If you were gentle it wasn't because you were weak, it was because you were a good social animal trying to do things cooperatively. And if you were leather and claws, well it's because they earned it.
[He turns to her suddenly sober.] You were never expendable. And you can teach them they ain't, too.
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Date: 2014-02-13 06:56 am (UTC)[His mouth turns up at that.]
I learned different lessons than you about all the ways I didn't matter; I know I don't quite understand. But I do know that it's possible to stop giving a fuck about the lessons and the boxes. Difficult; lots of conflict; but it's doable.
You can handle difficult. You can handle conflict.
Teach them not to hate themselves. Teach them that they never had it coming. Because you never had it coming. If you were gentle it wasn't because you were weak, it was because you were a good social animal trying to do things cooperatively. And if you were leather and claws, well it's because they earned it.
[He turns to her suddenly sober.] You were never expendable. And you can teach them they ain't, too.